My Thoughts. My Opinions. My Sea Stories. My Word!! I love leadership topics and there are many blogs out there that touch on the same. This is just another one. I encourage you to suggest topics for discussion.
Friday, February 3, 2017
Shipmates
It was just a brief chat over Facebook Messenger, but it was like we just picked up where we left off so many years ago. That is one thing I have loved about the Navy; making lifelong friends.
The Wardroom on a ship can become pretty tight, because you go through so many things together. I miss that, being a retiree.
I am so glad I can still call my shipmates my friends. No matter what.
Thursday, January 8, 2015
Delegation
On one end, you have a micromanager, who refuses to delegate anything. I've worked for micromanagers, who seem to have the need to do everything themselves. This is not very efficient and it is not good for morale.
On the other end, you have someone who delegates everything; well, as much as they can anyway. This is not efficient either.
When I worked on a numbered fleet staff, my department head, an O6, was a very intelligent man who was constantly thinking outside the box. He had great ideas (and some not so great). Believe it or not, he actually delegated the reading of his email. He gave us all full access to his inbox, and he tasked us with checking and reading his email, and if there was anything of importance, we could respond, on his behalf, then backfill him. This was an interesting concept that actually worked quite well for the officers in his department at the time.
Now, the reason I am writing about delegation today is here at work we have a department head in another department that appears to delegate everything. I may be wrong, but you can never go to this person with a request for information without him having to check with one of his subordinates. This is not efficient, from my perspective, and it is quite frustrating. Of course I have stopped going to him for information, because I have learned it would waste my time.
I've always appreciated the supervisors I have had who have trusted me enough to do as much as I could, while holding me accountable. It kept me busy, provided me training for future jobs, and it was quite rewarding. I am glad I work for someone like that now.
When I was in command, I certainly delegated a fair amount, but holding my people accountable was the key. Over time I learned what I could delegate and what I needed to retain for myself. When you empower your people, they will shine!!
On a side note, I just finished a great book entitled Destroyer Captain, by Admiral James Stavridis. I highly recommend this book!!
Wednesday, March 14, 2012
Great to be Back
As I mentioned in my previous post, after a four year absence, I am employed by the U.S. Navy once again. My time with the Department of Commerce, as a contractor, was good, however, I am glad that part of my life is behind me.I definitely learned a lot with NOAA, but found that people, in general, did not understand the experiences I had as an officer in the Navy for twenty years and what I brought to the table. At times it was frustrating to me, because I was completely underutilized. This was precisely the reason I pursued other employment.
I had a manager in my previous job who was an ok manager. He was not, however, a leader. I found it funny one day when he told me I should stick with him and he would teach me how to lead people. I thought he was kidding at first, since I knew he had seen my resume. He wasn't. I quickly reminded him that I had been leading people successfully over twenty years, including command of over 400 officers and sailors during my command tour. He seemed to have no comprehension of what I was saying.
For the past nine months, I've been back with the Navy, and I love it. I won't say the command I work for, but I am working on an admiral's staff once again. This is the third flag staff I have worked on during my Navy tenure. The first one (3-Star afloat Fleet staff) was superb and extremely rewarding. The second (2-Star shore staff) was not so superb and I could not wait to leave (retire). I am currently on a 1-Star type commander staff. It is a relatively large staff, mostly civilians, with some very smart and hard working individuals (military and civilian). We also have a leadership team that knows how to lead.
It is so refreshing to have true leadership in the front office. I missed that very much during those four years. The admiral is a people person who inspires us on a daily basis by his words and actions. One thing I like that the previous admirals I worked for did not do are frequent (sometimes bi-weekly) all hands calls. The admiral, Chief of Staff (COS) and/or Deputy Commander (DC) will interact with us and tell us what is going on and how we are supporting the fleet. They tell us about their recent meetings and interactions with other commands and organizations. This really makes me feel like the small part I play can really make a difference and that I am a part of the team.
They all continually thank us for what we do, whether it be in an email or in person. They are very sincere. Our new DC actually leaves his office and gets around the building to interact with us to see how we are doing. All three are very personable and it makes a world of difference. In addition, the staff frequently gathers for social events, whether they be an informal luncheon, bowling, or a barbeque, to include families.
Life is good and once again, I have an example of leadership to be excited about.
Monday, March 12, 2012
Hey Strangers, It's Me!!
Wednesday, May 18, 2011
Invisible Leader
A former boss of mine, a commanding officer of a U.S. Navy warship, was someone I would classify as an invisible leader. Well, now that I write those two words, invisible manager may be more appropriate for this person. Regardless, he led from his stateroom, via email, for the most part.Wednesday, April 6, 2011
Invictus
I must admit, I did not know much of anything about Nelson Mandela before I saw the movie Invictus. After seeing this movie, I definitely had the desire to learn more about this man. I also need to make a note to read the book that the movie was based upon, Playing the Enemy, by John Carlin.Wednesday, March 30, 2011
The Golden Rule Strikes Again!

During one of my last tours of my 20 year career in the Navy, we had a Navy civil servant who worked on our staff. He was a retired Navy Captain who had been in this particular Civil Service job for two decades.
Thursday, February 17, 2011
It All Starts With the Chief
I just read, with interest, an article on the U.S. Naval Institute's (USNI) blog entitled A Four Star Blog Post x 2: Lessons Learned from Our Carrier Tours by ADM Harvey and ADM Stavridis, with an introduction by CDR Robb Chadwick, Commanding Officer of USS ROOSEVELT (DDG 80).Wednesday, February 9, 2011
Micromanagement: What is the Point?
Ok, so you have some background now; sorry to drag this out.
Friday, February 4, 2011
Calm, Cool, & Collected

"Leadership has been defined as the ability to hide your panic from others"
— Anonymous
This quote reminds me of a former captain I had. When he first came aboard, my impression was that he was extremely smart, as most of the captains I served with were. It did not take long for me to look up to this man as a mentor and I learned a lot from him.
I recall being in the north Pacific evading a super typhoon. I don't recall the circumstances why we were there, but we certainly were. The seas were the roughest I had ever seen during my 20+ years in the Navy and routine work throughout the ship was secured, for safety considerations.
I was Officer of the Deck as we plowed through swells and waves that appeared higher than the bridge of this ship as it bobbled in the sea. We were looking up to see the tops of them. This was not a big ship and we were rolling, hawing and pitching all over the place. I must admit, the thoughts in the back of my mind at that moment were that men had built that ship, it was an older ship, and I really hoped it didn't break in half. That wouldn't be good.
The Captain came up to the bridge and noticed the watchstanders each had themselves wedged between pieces of equipment and bulkheads (walls). I recall I was between a radar repeater and a small table that we worked maneuvering board solutions on. We were all quiet, just watching the bow go in and out of the swells and waves. Fear was in the air and the Captain noticed it.
His first reaction upon "reading" his bridge team was to smile. As he held the wire rope traversing the width of the bridge, so he would not fall over, he stated, "Isn't this great?!!!" He said this like he was riding his favorite roller coaster. His reaction definitely put me at ease, as I trusted him, and he appeared to trust the construction of this ship.
His persona at all times was calm, cool and collected. Nothing seemed to phase him as he made the daily decisions of a successful warship captain. It was quite impressive from my perspective.
Years later I had the pleasure of meeting up with this captain again. I was on another ship and we pulled into a port where he was stationed at the time. He had never been aboard of ship of this class, so he was anxious for a tour. After the tour, we went to my stateroom and talked for quite some time. It was a great conversation, hearing his present perspective of his time in command several years ago. I was very surprised what he told me. He mentioned that as captain, he hated every time the phone rang or someone knocked on his door. He was afraid that bad news was coming; someone jumped overboard (yes, this did happen during his tour) or a piece of vital equipment was no longer working (on a 20 year old ship, this was not uncommon).
I never would have guessed these things bothered him. He certainly did not display these feelings, and believe me, I delivered plenty of bad news to him (that guy that jumped overboard worked for me).
I am pretty certain he did not panic, as he was a very competent mariner and leader, but he did mask his true feelings very well, which, for a person in his position, was vital to his crew.
Friday, January 7, 2011
Inspire!!
Wednesday, December 22, 2010
Consistency
This quote by Jeffrey Krames is very profound. In my opinion, having a consistent leader makes life a lot easier in the workplace. I knew I wanted to write about consistency so when I searched for a quote about consistency, this one opened my eyes to other aspects of it.
My original premise was to discuss the consistency of personality. I will use examples to demonstrate what I mean here.
I had a former boss in the Navy who was very firm and often yelled. His standards were high and he ensured he enforced them at every opportunity. The image of our command was very important to him. If we were away from work, he wanted to ensure we were on our best behavior and looked our best, because we worked for him. At the time, I thought he was a real jerk. Life was not easy working for him. However, we knew what to expect every day. There were no surprises. Also, looking back, he was very competent at what he did and we were very successful. He was consistent and morale was relatively high.
I had another boss who was not consistent. When dealing with this person, you never knew what to expect; would it be Dr. Jekyll or Mr. Hyde? Sometimes this person would be so mean that it was quite intimidating. At other times, they would be the nicest person you would ever meet,and it would catch you off guard. It was very difficult working for a person like this because you just did not know what to expect. Sometimes life would be good and the work would flow and at other times life sucked and we struggled. In this situation, we were not successful. We would be hit and miss on inspections and our reputation was in the pits. Morale was low too.
The lesson I took out of this is the obvious one. Be who you are all the time. It will really make a difference.
Going back to the quote above, maintaining a "strong set of values" goes a long way. If you have a leader who consistently does this, you cannot have a better example. I had one boss, who would falsify records to look good and pass inspections. He did not garner much respect from me. That is one leadership example I made sure was not emulated.
Consistency is the key. Do the right thing all the time.
Thursday, December 16, 2010
Inspiring Action
Simon Sinek, author of the book Start With Why, is a marketing consultant known for developing "The Golden Circle," a model based on human decision-making that guides organizations on how to inspire people to buy or support any product, company or idea.
To learn firsthand about this concept, please view the short video.
The Golden Circle is an interesting way to look at how people think. Sinek states that most people think conventionally; from outside in, or from What to How to Why. Sinek proposes that thinking inside-out, is not only unconventional, but can produce remarkable results.
In his video, Sinek provides the examples of Apple and Martin Luther King to explain his theory. From a leadership perspective, what exactly does this mean?
From the conventional view (outside - in), here is an example. The boss comes down and states he just got an order for 1000 widgets. He tells his team that they need to build these by the end of the week. This order must be on time, or the company will lose a big profit. That is not very motivating, especially to the employees who already may be overworked.
Here is the example from the inside-out. The boss comes down and says, "You all do such great work and the quality of our product has really garnered a lot of positive attention. We just got an order in from one of our best customers and they are really counting on us to deliver this order on time." Do you see the difference?
In the Golden Circle, the Why is the purpose/cause/belief; the reason why we get out of bed each day; the reason why anyone should care.
I believe most inspired leaders I have encountered follow this line of thinking without thinking about it. They believe in the cause or purpose of their mission.
Sinek says, "People don't buy what you do. They buy why you do it." He also believes the Golden Circle is ingrained in us biologically. He cited that if you take a cross section of a human brain, there are three major areas; the outer area is the Neocortex (the What) that is responsible for rational and analytical thought and language. The inner two regions are called the Limbic brain, which controls feelings (the Why), like trust and loyalty; human behavior and decision making.
Sinek says, "If you talk about what you believe, you will attract those who believe what you believe. People who believe you will take your cause as their own." If every leader had followers that did this, life would be easy. However, as we know, it takes a lot of effort to inspire followers. "We follow those who lead, not because we have to, but because we want to;" says Sinek, "not for them, but ourselves."
When a person is inspired as to the reason why they are doing something or understand the mission, they gain a sense of belonging or being part of the team, from which they gain their sense of importance to the team.
The Golden Circle is an interesting marketing tool that seems quite effective, which very much applies in the leadership world.
Friday, December 10, 2010
Respect
A good leader should absolutely display sincere respect toward those below him. You cannot beat mutual respect in a relationship to ensure it lasts and functions the way it was intended.
Most of the people I have worked for did gain my respect by treating me with respect. These leaders made me feel important, ensured I felt that I was part of the team, took a personal interest in me and my family, and encouraged me. When I had the privilege of serving as a commanding officer, I worked hard to do the same to those in my command. To be honest, it just made sense to me.
The Golden Rule; treat others as you would like to be treated, is the basis for displaying respect toward someone. The majority of the people I have encountered, live by this rule without thinking.
Unfortunately, I have met some people who have never heard of this rule. I've worked for some people who seemed to look down on people who worked for them and basically treated them like crap. It was obvious they had no respect for people "below" them, and I will admit, I had little personal respect for them. Sure, I did respect their rank and position, but not the individual.
In relationships like this, where there is little respect, there is not a lot of motivation to go out of your way to do something for this person. Why bother, since it won't be appreciated. When this happens on a large scale, for example, on a ship, this can be the root of low morale.
It is difficult for me to comprehend how some people can treat others so poorly. Since I have no control over these types of people, I suppose I should just concentrate on what I can do and continue to follow that Golden Rule.
"If you have some respect for people as they are, you can be more effective in helping them to become better than they are." John W. Gardner
Thursday, December 9, 2010
One CEO’s View on Leadership
According to Havenstein, his four basic principles of management are partnership, safety, fact-based management, and continuous improvement.
- Partnership. Havenstein said he "looks at those who work at SAIC not as employees but as partners, or colleagues. As such, he said, they should be trusted and empowered to do what they do best."
- I do like this philosophy. As an employee of SAIC myself, the company does empower us to do our jobs, which allows me to be much more efficient in getting the job done. The sense of teamwork is clear and the support mechanism between divisions, operations and business units is very active. From a military perspective, I would call this teamwork. Because of the military chain of command, it is not feasible for everyone to be "partners" and "colleagues," but we can be on the same team. It is important for the leader to make each person feel like they are an important member of that team; giving them specific responsibilities and empowering them with the authority to do their jobs.
- Safety. "One of the biggest responsibilities of a leader," Havenstein said, "is to provide a physically and emotionally healthy and safe place, where people can express themselves without fear of being criticized, ridiculed or ignored."
- This is important in any organization. You don’t want your team worrying about their environment; they have far more important things to be concerned about like getting the job done. It is the leader’s job to ensure their team is physically safe (unless in a war zone, of course) and free from any discrimination or disrespect.
- Fact-based management. "Leaders," Havenstein said, "must make decisions based on the facts, even while recognizing some uncertainty, and not just facts that support a single point of view, but all of the relevant facts."
- A good leader will base decisions based upon all the facts he/she knows. However, in some cases, the leader will need to make decisions based upon only what is known at a certain moment. That is why they usually get paid the big bucks. It is important for the leader to instill into the team the importance of not keeping secrets or from filtering important information as it goes up the chain. It is also important, at times, for the leader to solicit discussion and recommendations from the team regarding important decisions. This will also contribute to building teamwork.
- Continuous improvement. Havenstein said that he "believes that continuous improvement is crucial, but not in the sense of enterprise wide continuous improvement projects. What is most effective is creating a culture in which people are not afraid to ask two questions — "Why?" and "Why not?" While tools such as Six Sigma are important, they are just tools."
- I would hope that every leader would desire to continuously improve their team; to make them more efficient to increase output and reduce the required resources. There are many tools out there, with just as many opinions on their application, that can aid in improvement. However, from a military perspective, it is not wise to have subordinates question decisions and orders, unless done so tactfully.
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| Walter P. Havenstein, SAIC CEO with an Old Sailor |
“ "Leaders who are self-serving are usually those who don't succeed. When you take more interest in the success of others, you will be amazed at how successful you will become." Walter P. Havenstein, CEO, SAIC, November 3, 2010
Sunday, December 5, 2010
Leadership Versus Management
In my experience, I have had good leaders who were not good managers. I've also had good managers who were not good leaders. I've also worked for bad leaders who were good managers. I can say, without a doubt, that the best people I worked for were good at both leading and managing.
A good leader must inspire people; to motivate them. They must have the "big picture" and set the goals of the organization. The good manager needs to execute the plan to achieve the goals.
A good leader needs to have vision and think outside the box. A good manager needs to be organized and possess good attention to detail.
I recall reading somewhere that leaders have followers; managers have subordinates. That sums it up pretty well, if the person in those roles is not dual hatted with their abilities.
Since most of my experience in leadership and management are from the Navy, the examples I refer to are Navy related. To have a successful command, the commanding officer, or CO, should be a good leader. The CO sets the tone for the ship by establishing the mission and priorities. The good CO should inspire his or her crew to do their very best to accomplish the mission.
The executive officer, or XO, runs the ship. The XO ensures the missions are met, by establishing and enforcing the daily routine and overseeing the administrative actions. A good XO should be a good manager.
Rear Admiral Grace Hopper, whom I had the pleasure of meeting when I was a midshipman at the Naval Academy, summed it up, "You cannot manage men into battle. You manage things; you lead people."
If you are lucky, you will be able to work for both a good leader and a good manager. There are a few out there. Is it necessary to be both? No, but the person with both skills has a far greater chance of success.
Wednesday, December 1, 2010
Fear and Intimidation
If you follow military news, there are recent stories regarding a Naval officer who left command early (not by choice) due to cruelty and maltreatment of the crew, and conduct unbecoming an officer.
This Naval officer led by fear and intimidation. I've included several links below that describe the incidents and stories. If you read some of the comments on a popular military blog, I Like the Cut Of His Jib, you may be surprised and wonder how these stories could even possibly be true.
Even if half the stories are true, how can a Naval officer stay in the U.S. Navy for over 25 years with this type of personality? It sounds like several people complained about the wrath this Naval officer spread, but it fell on deaf ears.It is my opinion that the U.S. Navy failed here. They should not have allowed this person to promote or take command of two ships.
Working for a person in authority who rules by fear and intimidation is cruelty. Officers and sailors can be motivated by this, but it is negative motivation whose results are mediocrity. Who would want to do their best work when no recognition is afforded them. Who wants to go the extra mile if they will be ridiculed or embarrassed in front of their peers and subordinates?
This type of perceived leadership is ineffective. It is not conducive to good order and discipline and the results could be costly and deadly. This Naval officer should have been sent "home" long ago.
Regarding the Navy's stand, what type of leadership did this Naval officer's superiors exhibit when complaints were received. Why did the complaints fall on deaf ears? Was it because this Naval officer was a woman, a woman on the "fast track" destined to become an admiral?
I don't believe her misconduct was gender related, but her being put into positions of increasing responsibility was. Navy leadership failed!
Having served under this Naval officer for 18 months, I know first hand that every story reported and written is very plausible. I lived through many of them.
There is one good thing from all this; I learned a lot about leadership from this Naval officer; I learned what is not effective when leading officers and sailors.
05 Dec 10: Update from Navy Times (see bottom link below):
"By a vote of 2-1, the board found CAPT Graf had committed misconduct; by unanimous vote, it found she had committed conduct unbecoming of an officer for the maltreatment and cruelty toward her crew as commanding officer of the Yokosuka, Japan-based cruiser Cowpens. The panel unanimously voted to recommend she be separated from the Navy with a general discharge and be allowed to retire as a captain."
This recommendation will now go to the Secretary of the Navy for approval.
http://www.time.com/time/nation/article/0,8599,1971246,00.html
http://www.time.com/time/nation/article/0,8599,1969602,00.html
http://www.navytimes.com/news/2010/03/nt_graf_to_dahlgren_030810w/
http://www.stripes.com/news/admiral-relieves-cowpens-captain-1.98063
http://www.navytimes.com/news/2010/11/navy-graf-board-convenes-112910w/
http://www.navytimes.com/news/2010/11/navy-graf-board-of-inquiry-cruelty-113010w/
http://swampland.blogs.time.com/2010/12/01/reckoning-for-a-female-captain-bligh/#comment-220130
http://www.militarycorruption.com/hollygraf5.htm
http://www.navytimes.com/news/2010/12/navy-officers-in-graf-inquiry-say-they-feared-skipper-120110/
http://www.navytimes.com/news/2010/12/navy-panel-general-discharge-for-captain-holly-graf-120310w/
Monday, November 22, 2010
Are Leaders Born or Made?
I haven't done any research on this topic, but I believe it is probably a little of both. However, I would suspect that the environment the person is exposed to has a lot to do with it.
I do consider myself a leader. As a Naval officer, I held many positions of responsibility, including a very successful tour as a commanding officer. In my case, I don't believe I was born a leader. I was raised predominantly by my mother and two older sisters, and no, I really was not old enough to be considered the "man of the house." It wasn't until I got into high school where I became involved with clubs and sports, where I was exposed to my first instances of leading people and projects. I personally believe I learned the most about leadership while at the Naval Academy and as an officer in the Navy. My leadership learning curve never leveled; I was always learning something new about leadership. I still do today.
I suspect there are exceptions to every rule. I'm sure some men and women showed leadership traits as a toddler. I do know for a fact that I attended the Naval Academy with some people who were not leaders at all; at least early on.
You have probably heard the phrase that before you can lead, you have to follow. I believe this is true. It was for me.
What do you think? Do you know anyone who is a natural born leader? Can someone learn to be a leader?
"Leaders are made, they are not born. They are made by hard effort, which is the price which all of us must pay to achieve any goal that is worthwhile." - Vince Lombardi
Sunday, November 21, 2010
"Leadership and learning are indispensable to each other." John F. Kennedy

This quote, by JFK, is very profound. In my experience, a good leader must constantly be in the learning mode. Though it is not expected that a leader of any organization should know the specific details of a subordinates job, they should have a very good understanding of what their people are doing.
I strongly believe in the saying, you are never too old to learn something new. I think a person should attempt to learn at least one thing new everyday.

